This is a #HotTopic and I'm never shy about speaking on controversial matters even if it does get me in trouble from time to time. My views and opinions often alienate people but I figure that's just a way to weed out the people that I don't want to associate with anyway.
If I can't speak my mind without you getting all pissy about it then I don't need/want to be around you anyway.
So, no they shouldn't do that specifically (see attached picture) I think it's worded wrong but what should happen is that the other parent Mother or Father receiving child support should be giving verified expenses of that child and base child support off the actual needs of the child.
The Child support system is so whacked that they expect the parent without the child to give an obscene amount of money that well exceeds the expenses of the child.
There is something wrong about that I personally don't want to be paying the mother of my child for her cigarette habit or to go out on a Saturday night to get drunk and do god knows what with god knows who. I have a problem with that!
I could care less what she does with her money I don't need to know what she is buying or what she is blowing her money on. What I do care about though is that my child is getting everything she needs with OUR money. Just because We are not together anymore doesn't mean she doesn't have to pay her fair share either!
It shouldn't be about who pays what or who pays more or less as long as the child is getting what she needs. We should still be doing this TOGETHER.
What? she needs new clothes for school but you can't afford it NO Problem let me get that for her... oh wait I've already paid my child support this month You'll have to handle that on your own...
Is that the way it's supposed to be? Isn't there a BETTER WAY?
Yea There is it's Called Parenting you do what you have to do! be a civil parent and work with each other for the benefit of the child. Maybe Dad doesn't have enough money to make child support this month and you gonna crucify him for that? Send him to Jail? incur all sorts of Fines and Lawyer fees? when that could have been money going to the child? What sense does that make?
We Need Child Support Reform We Need Father's Rights We Need the courts to stop making these devastating decisions.
Sure there are BOTH mothers and fathers that won't have anything to do with their children or willingly refuse to support their children and the courts should do something about THAT but for the parents who ARE TRYING to make it work should not be damned if they do or damned if they don't!
Now I know once this gets out (and it will) I'll be called a hypocrite or worse because I don't always send my full child support as ordered by the court, in fact, I pay very little of it but I do what I can and I always send SOMETHING every month that should count for something. but I don't know what expenses my child has because NO ONE will tell me what they are! why should I pay an obscene amount of money when I don't know what it's going to? I shouldn't and I WON'T and I Can't anyway because I can barely afford to support myself BECAUSE of the situation the MOTHER put me in! I was doing just fine SUPPORTING the ENTIRE family on my income the mother didn't even have to work but then she strips everything away and STILL expects me to support her and OUR child I DON'T THINK SO! The court says I HAVE TO PAY FOR EVERYTHING and SHE is not required to pay anything and that is supposed to be JUST AND FAIR?
I told her and I told the courts TELL ME what her expenses are and I will do my best to do my part but THEY refuse ASK ME for what she needs SHE REFUSES what am I supposed to do?
My bills aren't getting paid and I need to raise my rates to support all my NEW bills and expenses but if I do that I'll get LESS business which is counterproductive. I wish I could give my child $500 a month I'd be happy if I could afford that.
But NO ONE will work with me that's why we need reform on the ENTIRE family court system.
So people like me won't get screwed.
That is my defense I'm NOT a deadbeat father I AM trying I am Sending what I CAN afford I'm sorry if that doesn't support a two pack a day habit.
Maybe if I knew what was needed I could do more to help with OUR CHILD the mother is not MY RESPONSIBILITY anymore.
That's #MyThoughts on the matter.
