Where's My Head At - Q12018

The first quarter of the year coming to a close a lot to do gotta pull out the end of the quarter to do list and plan for Q2 I find planning for 3 months out is much more manageable then planning out the year. but reflecting back on Q1 was pretty good did a lot of stuff created a lot of stuff had a few new experiences. so pretty positive overall.

I'm looking over my past projects and thinking of rehashing some of them for Q2 like back in 2006 I think it was I started a project called "The PND Project" (aptly titled) where I collected all my Pennies, Nickels and Dimes (I didn't spend any PND's saved them all) for a whole year and then donated them to a local charity this was in Terre Haute, IN some of you might remember it oh wait maybe not 2006 Facebook wasn't a thing isn't that funny lol anyways yea I was talking about the project recently and I think it would do really well in 2018 so we will see where that goes.

This next one isn't really a project but it was a #sermon I did at the #UU fellowship titled "Common Ground" this was in 2009 and at the time I recorded it youtube had a time limit on how long a video could be so it was chopped up into 8 or so parts I'm thinking about redoing it so that it looks better I'm sure I could improve on the recording as well lol I've learned a few things since that recording.

Along with some new ideas for Q2 that I'm going to work on I've been researching and joining a lot of support "like" groups and offering advice and sharing experiences and this and that and I figure with everything I'm doing now this could be an opportunity to add another service to my offerings I already act like a "#coach" when it comes to #tech matters you know do this don't do that let me tell you how this should be done you know just giving overall advice on various matters. And wouldn't you know that's exactly what a coach does so instead of just being a geek in the business giving advice to my customers why not expand that offering and label it as a #TechCoach now that is something I can market and sell! I've always used the "I'm Your #GeeK" slogan which is essentially me #coaching you what to do.

I do consider myself as a figure of authority in tech and as a #TechProfessional a leader amongst friends and family and customers. So this seems like a natural next step to explore. Furthermore expanding past tech I'm 42 years old now (crazy right when did that happen o.O ) But lemme tell you lol I've got a lot of #life #experience I've been through a lot of #trials and #tribulations in my day so if I can help someone why shouldn't I? maybe I'll become a #LifeCoach as well I believe I can offer good advice and work with a person through whatever they are dealing with not like a certified therapist/counselor can but I offer good advice. So I'll explore that more. Why stop there?! hell, I've been in #business for myself for much longer than a decade but officially about a decade so I've already been exploring helping out #SmallBusinesses I could label that as a #SmallBusinessCoach because again I can offer good advice. It was being labeled as small business #consulting but "coach" is the trendy word for it now. Everyone wants to be a coach so why not #hoponthatbandwagon!

So that's where my head is at.... man that post ended up way longer than I planned lol looks like a blog post to me but sure whatever I'll post this on my personal blog as well.

and if you actually read all of this then props to you you must actually really like me rambling on lol you should probably get on the email list if you like me rambling gfnt.me/Newsletter

Cheers!

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Time For Child Support Reform?

This is a #HotTopic and I'm never shy about speaking on controversial matters even if it does get me in trouble from time to time. My views and opinions often alienate people but I figure that's just a way to weed out the people that I don't want to associate with anyway.

If I can't speak my mind without you getting all pissy about it then I don't need/want to be around you anyway.

So, no they shouldn't do that specifically (see attached picture) I think it's worded wrong but what should happen is that the other parent Mother or Father receiving child support should be giving verified expenses of that child and base child support off the actual needs of the child.

The Child support system is so whacked that they expect the parent without the child to give an obscene amount of money that well exceeds the expenses of the child.

There is something wrong about that I personally don't want to be paying the mother of my child for her cigarette habit or to go out on a Saturday night to get drunk and do god knows what with god knows who. I have a problem with that!

I could care less what she does with her money I don't need to know what she is buying or what she is blowing her money on. What I do care about though is that my child is getting everything she needs with OUR money. Just because We are not together anymore doesn't mean she doesn't have to pay her fair share either!

It shouldn't be about who pays what or who pays more or less as long as the child is getting what she needs. We should still be doing this TOGETHER.

What? she needs new clothes for school but you can't afford it NO Problem let me get that for her... oh wait I've already paid my child support this month You'll have to handle that on your own...

Is that the way it's supposed to be? Isn't there a BETTER WAY?

Yea There is it's Called Parenting you do what you have to do! be a civil parent and work with each other for the benefit of the child. Maybe Dad doesn't have enough money to make child support this month and you gonna crucify him for that? Send him to Jail? incur all sorts of Fines and Lawyer fees? when that could have been money going to the child? What sense does that make?

We Need Child Support Reform We Need Father's Rights We Need the courts to stop making these devastating decisions.

Sure there are BOTH mothers and fathers that won't have anything to do with their children or willingly refuse to support their children and the courts should do something about THAT but for the parents who ARE TRYING to make it work should not be damned if they do or damned if they don't!

Now I know once this gets out (and it will) I'll be called a hypocrite or worse because I don't always send my full child support as ordered by the court, in fact, I pay very little of it but I do what I can and I always send SOMETHING every month that should count for something. but I don't know what expenses my child has because NO ONE will tell me what they are! why should I pay an obscene amount of money when I don't know what it's going to? I shouldn't and I WON'T and I Can't anyway because I can barely afford to support myself BECAUSE of the situation the MOTHER put me in! I was doing just fine SUPPORTING the ENTIRE family on my income the mother didn't even have to work but then she strips everything away and STILL expects me to support her and OUR child I DON'T THINK SO! The court says I HAVE TO PAY FOR EVERYTHING and SHE is not required to pay anything and that is supposed to be JUST AND FAIR?

I told her and I told the courts TELL ME what her expenses are and I will do my best to do my part but THEY refuse ASK ME for what she needs SHE REFUSES what am I supposed to do?

My bills aren't getting paid and I need to raise my rates to support all my NEW bills and expenses but if I do that I'll get LESS business which is counterproductive. I wish I could give my child $500 a month I'd be happy if I could afford that.

But NO ONE will work with me that's why we need reform on the ENTIRE family court system.

So people like me won't get screwed.

That is my defense I'm NOT a deadbeat father I AM trying I am Sending what I CAN afford I'm sorry if that doesn't support a two pack a day habit.

Maybe if I knew what was needed I could do more to help with OUR CHILD the mother is not MY RESPONSIBILITY anymore.

That's #MyThoughts on the matter.

Some people would be so proud lol

Good morning people I'm so proud of myself I think for the first time in my existence I actually managed to hold my tongue lol last night a group of friends were having a discussion on abortion. Yep that hot controversial topic.

Mind you this wasn't my discussion and I wasn't brought into it so it was hard to not jump in on it lol y'all know how opinionated and outspoken I am on controversial topics but when your in with a certain group of people for a greater good you have to know what battles to fight and when you should just keep your mouth shut!

That is the hard part because like I said before I have an opinion on EVERYTHING and it's not always the popular opinion but when I make a stance on a subject I don't do so lightly I think it out and I apply logic and rational reasoning to my opinion I look at the greater good and the moral implications of any stance I take and I like to think that my opinion is the most logical approach that any moral logical human would have.

This is just how my mind works I'm very Humanist in that sense so yea I won't hide or be ashamed of my process if you don't like it fine but respect my opinion just like I respect yours.

You better believe if I was brought in on that subject I'd school your ass on all the implications that arise from the mantra "My Body, My Choice" but like I said I'm not trying to start drama when it doesn't include me there is a time and place for that if it's in a public forum that's a different story I'll jump in and speak my mind regardless of the consequences it wouldn't be the first time I fell on my sword.

Those are my #ThursdayThoughts